I do like my Chinese phones, purely because of the same specs for lower prices!
In my opinion, Android already beats iOS in customisation, features, technology, and more! Want to change how your phone looks? Download and install a new ROM package onto it!
Phones need a lot more than 4 GB. My new phone has 8 GB, and I see 4 GB used with no apps open. More RAM = more apps kept open. If I open up Gmail at 9 am, I can expect it to be exactly how I left it at 9 pm, opening up instantly. Admittedly, Android is more of a RAM hog than iOS, but it's because of that I see the snappy performance I do.
You say that the latest SOCs are promising but they don't last and slow down quickly. At least Android device manufacturers didn't purposely slow down their old phones... You also say that they're
not in the same league as ... Samsung but they use the same (or newer!) SOCs than them. Take the S10+, a relatively new phone, running the Snapdragon 855 chipset. My new phone (for less than 1/2 of that price) has the SD 855+. You are correct: they're not in the same league, they're in a higher one!
The one thing that will always keep Android behind is the fact that Apple have complete control over what phones run their iOS: they don't have to include all the different device hardware drivers for each possible combination of hardware possible, ranging from £19 Alcatel phones to £1 900 folding phones. Apple can always optimise their software for each of their devices (which is what they do) providing the best experience for each device.
Have you heard of Samsung Dex? Most modern Samsung devices can hook up to a monitor and provide a complete desktop experience using just one cable, using a bluetooth keyboard (or wired if your monitor has USB ports) and you can even use the phone screen as a touchpad.